Back to the Grind
Spring Break is over. Back to a normal schedule. We made it through Easter, now I have to make it to Jamaica!
Today, I got the oldest off to school, went to BJ's, fed the baby a snack and got her down for a nap, unloaded the groceries from the car, fed my middle boy snack and have a load of laundry in the washer. Whew! It has been a busy, non-stop day and it is only 10:30! And I have miles to go before I can sleep. Laundry to fold, a house to pick up and bathrooms to clean. Children to feed, play with and tend to. The list could go on and on.
Last night I went out for a well deserved ice cream treat with my neighbor (and friend). I observed a dynamic between women and their men that I wanted to rant about. I saw two very different couples do the exact same thing while my friend and I were enjoying our delicious treat. The first couple was young, maybe in their early twenties. The second was older, maybe in their early fifties, with two young adult children with them. The younger couple came in together and the male immediately took a seat at a table while his girlfriend/wife stood in the long line. The older couple entered with their children and the mother and two children stood in line while the father meandered around the store, then went outside to sit on a bench. In both cases, the women ordered their boyfriend/husband's ice cream, and paid for it. The younger male got up when he saw that his ice cream was ready, took it from the counter, and left the store to wait outside. I had thought he was saving the table, but he left the store as soon as his food was ready. After the girl had paid for it, she left the store to join him. He was standing right outside the door, but did not open it for her. The older woman was left alone in the store as well. While she waited to pay her children took their ice cream and their father's and went outside to sit down. They were more than halfway into their dessert by the time the mother was able to join them outside.
As I watched these women, I felt angry and sorry for them. Why didn't the boyfriend wait with his girl and open the door for her? Why didn't the husband or children wait with their wife/mother while she paid? These two, very different women, were treated like gophers. They probably think that this is their burden as women. But I wanted to scream at them, "It doesn't have to be that way!" I think they should expect more from their men. I think that the men should have stayed with their women and at least opened the door for them as they were leaving the store. I know that my husband would have. My husband probably would have told me to go have a seat and relax while he ordered my dessert! And then I would have held the door for him as we were leaving. I never would have married someone who treated me the way these two men treated their women. If I had ever been on a date with someone who acted like that younger man, it would have been our last date!
Come on, girls! We deserve better! As women, we manage most aspects of our men's lives. We tell them when it is time to take out the trash, cut the lawn, and buy new underwear because most of the time they can't remember to do these things themselves. The least they can do for us is treat us with respect and kindness. Take a stand women, and demand to be treated like a princess, not a servant!
Rant over, I feel better now. Off to fold laundry now.
Today, I got the oldest off to school, went to BJ's, fed the baby a snack and got her down for a nap, unloaded the groceries from the car, fed my middle boy snack and have a load of laundry in the washer. Whew! It has been a busy, non-stop day and it is only 10:30! And I have miles to go before I can sleep. Laundry to fold, a house to pick up and bathrooms to clean. Children to feed, play with and tend to. The list could go on and on.
Last night I went out for a well deserved ice cream treat with my neighbor (and friend). I observed a dynamic between women and their men that I wanted to rant about. I saw two very different couples do the exact same thing while my friend and I were enjoying our delicious treat. The first couple was young, maybe in their early twenties. The second was older, maybe in their early fifties, with two young adult children with them. The younger couple came in together and the male immediately took a seat at a table while his girlfriend/wife stood in the long line. The older couple entered with their children and the mother and two children stood in line while the father meandered around the store, then went outside to sit on a bench. In both cases, the women ordered their boyfriend/husband's ice cream, and paid for it. The younger male got up when he saw that his ice cream was ready, took it from the counter, and left the store to wait outside. I had thought he was saving the table, but he left the store as soon as his food was ready. After the girl had paid for it, she left the store to join him. He was standing right outside the door, but did not open it for her. The older woman was left alone in the store as well. While she waited to pay her children took their ice cream and their father's and went outside to sit down. They were more than halfway into their dessert by the time the mother was able to join them outside.
As I watched these women, I felt angry and sorry for them. Why didn't the boyfriend wait with his girl and open the door for her? Why didn't the husband or children wait with their wife/mother while she paid? These two, very different women, were treated like gophers. They probably think that this is their burden as women. But I wanted to scream at them, "It doesn't have to be that way!" I think they should expect more from their men. I think that the men should have stayed with their women and at least opened the door for them as they were leaving the store. I know that my husband would have. My husband probably would have told me to go have a seat and relax while he ordered my dessert! And then I would have held the door for him as we were leaving. I never would have married someone who treated me the way these two men treated their women. If I had ever been on a date with someone who acted like that younger man, it would have been our last date!
Come on, girls! We deserve better! As women, we manage most aspects of our men's lives. We tell them when it is time to take out the trash, cut the lawn, and buy new underwear because most of the time they can't remember to do these things themselves. The least they can do for us is treat us with respect and kindness. Take a stand women, and demand to be treated like a princess, not a servant!
Rant over, I feel better now. Off to fold laundry now.
posted by mother juggler @ 10:34 AM
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